Now what??

Mama here. I am totally at my wits end! I squeeze Fessy's ear as hard as I can & get little to nothing out...seems like I'm just making it worse. It is now so swollen that you can hardly see his ear canal.
I read that the hematoma will heal itself eventually, but it takes awhile & is very painful. I just know that I can't afford to keep taking him to the vet & torturing him only to see it get worse.
If anyone out there in cat blog land has any suggestions, I would really appreciate them. I don't know what else to do.